Everyday happy (doesn't exist)

Yesterday it’s been a rough day for me.

I was feeling restless, annoyed by literally everything and everyone, little misfortunes that would normally pass almost unnoticed seemed to be the end of the world.


I’m telling you this because, when I ask my students and my coachees what they like about my way of teaching, they often tell me they love that I always look so happy.

I am, quite often, but not always.

I also get to walk my talk.

But if you’ve been working privately with me, you also know that this is the first thing I say: happy everyday doesn’t exist. There's no such thing.

There’s no miracle product, no daily ritual, no spiritual path that will give you an “everyday happy”.

Unpleasant days and uncomfortable emotions are just part of the human experience.


Isn’t that liberating?


There’s nothing you’re doing wrong, your life doesn’t suck, you’re not alone in the world.

You’re just having a human experience.

You’re just having very uncomfortable emotions, as any human being is bound to have.


As ugly as it feels, sit with it, be with it fully and with awareness for the time it needs, listen to what it has to say.


You don’t have to, but the things that need to be heard will come out, and they can patiently wait, snuggled somewhere in your body, for a very long time.

So give it a try.

Sit with it.

Listen. 




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